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Domestic Violence and Mental Health: How to Overcome Emotional Abuse

Domestic violence can happen to any person of any age and gender. It does not discriminate in any way. Domestic violence is widespread with lasting effects on its victims. While many people think domestic violence is only physical abuse, there are many emotional issues victims have to deal with as well. Whether you or a loved one have experienced emotionally abusive relationships, here are some effective ways to overcome them.

Know the Signs Of Emotionally Abusive Relationships

You could be in an emotionally abusive relationship and not even know it. Just because your spouse does not physically abuse you does not mean they are not abusive. Do you feel like you are always being criticized, shamed, bullied, belittled, or manipulated by your significant other? These are common tactics an abuser uses to make them feel superior and make you feel worthless at the same time. The earlier you can recognize these signs, the quicker you can move to overcome the emotional abuse.

Recognize What Makes Relationships Healthy

Recognizing the signs of an abusive relationship can be difficult for some people. It may be helpful to understand what constitutes a healthy relationship and see if your relationship[ has any of those characteristics. Some of the characteristics of a healthy relationship include:

  • Accepting criticism from one another and improving in response
  • Expressing feelings with each other
  • Dealing with conflicts together
  • Sharing needs shamelessly 
  • Saying “no” to certain requests from one another without being combative

If your relationship does not include any of these characteristics, then you could be experiencing emotional abuse without realizing it.

Reach Out to Your Support System

Lean on your support system if you feel you may be a victim of emotional abuse. This could involve a mixture of family and friends you trust. Talking with others about your experiences can help bring to light some of the issues going on in your home. If nothing else, it could help you realize the healthy relationship characteristics your life is missing and approach your partner to resolve them. If you still do not feel comfortable after talking to family and friends, consider seeking professional guidance.

Forgive Your Abuser and Move On

Standing up for yourself is important. In an ideal situation, your significant other will realize they are being abusive and work to improve themselves to strengthen their relationship with you. However, this is not always the case. There may be a time when it is best to move on to a better situation. At this point, understand that the failed relationship is not your fault, even though it is natural to blame yourself. The best thing you can do to move on from an emotionally abusive relationship is to forgive your abuser and then move on with your life. As difficult as it is to do, it will likely be the most rewarding decision you make.

Find Your Inner Peace

Once you’ve moved on and no longer experience daily emotional abuse, you can strive to find your inner peace. It will not happen overnight, but as long as you make a conscious effort to do the things that make you happy, you are taking steps in the right direction. Remember the support system you reached out to before? Lean on them as you begin your new journey to discover inner peace. You may be surprised at how your life evolves.

If you need a domestic violence attorney, the Law Office of Paul Bowen is here for you. No one should have to live in an abusive relationship, so call us today at (727) 773-1554 to schedule a consultation and begin your journey to finding inner peace.