Divorce can leave you feeling lonely and without direction. So often, part of our identity is found in being a spouse. When that is no longer the case, it can feel as though you no longer know who you are. Friends, therapists, and divorce lawyers can be there with advice and a shoulder to lean on, but that help will only go so far. Eventually, you need to take steps to find the tools that work best for you, to rebuild who you are. A great place to find those tools is in books. Below is a list of books on divorce with stories and skills that you can apply to your own healing journey.
In Something Gained, Deb Purdy, a transformation coach, outlines our ability to choose how we want to view our divorce. She walks the reader through transforming the hurt, anger, and shame stemming from a situation into acceptance. She supplies tools to redirect your plan for life, coexist peacefully with your ex, and support your children through the process.
The Journey From Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson
In The Journey, therapist Susan Anderson explains the biochemical and behavioral patterns that dictate how we handle abandonment. She gives concrete steps, promoting real change in the life of her readers. She walks through the five stages of abandonment, teaching you how to manage your pain and heal stronger than you ever were before.
Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After by Katherine Woodward Thomas
Often when something we invested so much of ourselves in falls apart, we see it as a personal failing. The automatic human reaction is to lash out in a “hurt them before they hurt us” mentality. While this is a natural instinct, it can make an already hurtful situation very messy. Author Katherine Woodward Thomas takes readers through her method, called Conscious Uncoupling. She provides skills for walking away from a marriage with mutual respect and an ability to be Happy Even After.
Talking to Children About Divorce: A Parent’s Guide to Healthy Communication at Each Stage of Divorce by Jean Mcbride
Some of the most vital divorce books are the ones on how to talk to your children about what is happening. Jean McBride offers tools and encouragement on how to communicate with your kids about divorce. This marriage and family therapist teaches readers how to handle the different situations and emotions that arise with children during a divorce. She provides steps and scripts to follow so that you are not floundering on your own as well as tips for successful co-parenting.
Aftermath: On Marriage and Separation by Rachel Cusk
Author Rachel Cusk approaches understanding the pain of divorce by telling her own story. Exploring divorce and its impact on women, she studies the complex place in society that broken marriages hold. With a revealing look at her personal situation, she approaches the story with a “me too” attitude, helping readers not feel quite so alone in their struggles.
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