Divorce can be a difficult process. Not only are the legal matters complex and frustrating, but the emotional process of getting divorced can be tough on your and your family. Many people see these struggles as barriers to moving on. Isn’t staying together easier than going through the social upheaval and financial stress of divorce?
Fear of the permanence of this decision and fear of the unknown often hold people back. What if you regret the choice you make? What happens next? However, delaying divorce can be damaging–even more so than getting divorced seems to be. Here are three major ways in which you may do more harm than good if you delay filing for divorce.
Delaying a Divorce Can Lead to Continued (or Worsening) Marital Problems
Some marriages can recover through a combination of therapy, open communication, and active steps to healing. However, some marriages just aren’t worth saving. Instances of abuse, whether it is emotional, physical, or other, repeated infidelity, or lack of financial trust are incredibly serious. Sadly, delaying divorce may mean putting yourself through even more marital woes, subjecting yourself to stress, sadness, or worse.
Of course, not all marriages experience such extreme problems. Sometimes couples just lose interest in one another or feel their lives heading in separate directions. Delaying divorce can mean experiencing even more distance between yourself and your partner.
Denying Yourself Time to Heal
You deserve to be happy, and if your marriage isn’t making you happy, please give yourself the freedom to move on. Delaying divorce doesn’t just trap you in a problematic marriage; it denies you the necessary time to heal, delaying your opportunities to move on with your life.
Many psychologists have equated the end of a marriage to a grieving period. A guide in Psychology Today breaks the divorce recovery process down to 4 steps, each of which takes time and effort to move past. The sooner you file for divorce, the sooner you can begin to heal.
Stress on Children
Many married couples have a misguided belief in “staying together for the kids.” These couples may experience serious disagreements, loss of trust, declining interest in each other, or additional signs that it’s time to move on–but they refuse to. There’s a common misconception that divorce is too difficult, or even traumatizing, for children, and so these couples refuse to call it quits. Won’t our children be angry with, or lose faith in, their parents?
Actually, many studies have shown that the opposite is true. Many children experience a sense of relief when their parents divorce. Why? Children are more observant than you may think. They can sense when couples are unhappy and may feel pleased that their parents are moving on. This is especially true with couples who openly argue in front of their children.
Ultimately, there is no science to ending relationships, especially one as serious as a marriage. You know in your heart when it’s time to move on. It’s up to you to decide to file for divorce. However, the entire divorce process isn’t entirely up to you. The Law Office of Paul Bowen is here to help.
Our experienced legal team will be on your side, guiding you through the divorce process and representing your interests all the while. Family law is complicated, but we take care of the complicated matters for people like you in Palm Harbor, FL. If you need a divorce lawyer, call us today at (727) 773-1554 to request a consultation for your case. Even if you’ve just decided to end your marriage, we can help you figure out what to do next.